Frustrated and Venting…
Okay…I am frustrated…I admit…I am a slave to my scale…
Shhhh…Dont tell anyone!
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I usually weigh in once a week, only on Fridays…But for kicks, I get on the scale today just to see, and it hasnt BUDGED…UGH!!!!
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I feel, TRULY, like I have not had significant, GOOD, weight loss since November…
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YET…I feel better about my body now then I have ever before…I KNOW my body is changing…I can feel it, I can see it…SO WHY IS THE SCALE BEING A PAIN IN MY ASS?????????
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I increased my workout last night FINALLY after talking about it for a month…Went from 30 minutes to an hour…Added in lots of new stuff, and today, my body is SORE…So I know I did the right thing…
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Here’s the thing…I have been talking about this for over a month…I have repeatedly told DH that this is gonna happen…
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In my house, this is how changes occur…I start by dropping little hints for a few weeks, and then I start coming right out and say it many many times over the next few weeks…Just so there is no doubt about my intentions…(BOYS, Is this a man thing, or just my husbands quirk???) if I dont do this, then I hear “I had NO IDEA you were gonna do that” even though usually we have discussed it 32 times by then…
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Okay…I digress…
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So I go up to the work out room last night and work my little ass off, litterally, come back and hear “Man, you were gone a long time!” with an implied guilt trip…UGH!!!!! An hour for myself is apparently too much…
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Okay, so back to the other story…So I am in a size 14 now…There was a time when I was in a size 20 that I couldnt even FATHOM being a 14…I DREAMED about being a 14, and felt anyone who was a 14 should consider themselves lucky to be there…
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Now that I am here, I dont want it anymore…I WANT MORE!!! I am tired of being in the 180’s…I want to be in the 170’s now! I want to be an 11/12 now or God willing, a 9/10!!!!! And I am mad at myself for NOT being happy with what I have…
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Yet again, last night, I was sitting on my weight bench, checking out my arms and legs, and I KNOW my body is/has changed…BIG TIME…And I am proud and happy for that…
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So why am I still relying on the damn scale????
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GOOD GRIEF!!! Okay…Thanks for letting me vent…
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You guys rock!!!!!! 
* sends you a virtual hug *
Ya know it’s too bad we fall into the numbers game … pounds, sizes etc… I do it too. I tell myself it’s not about numbers, it’s about health and feeling/looking good but the truth is - I get a special glow when the tag on the dress/pants says < insert your dream number here > …. It’s like a validation or something.
A few years ago I shed an enormous amount of weight and when I reached my goal I had to shop for a dress for my own award ceremony. I had no idea what size I was and I kept trying on sizes that were too big. Finally I discover I need a size 6. SIX!!! Me in a 6??? All the congrats and compliments in the world didn’t compare to that size 6 revelation and looking back I find that so sad now.
So this time I’m focusing on how I look and feel and fighting the urge to fall into the numbers game. Does this make sense?
* Walks away chanting ” the scale is simply a device to measure progress .” *
It’s good that you want more Dawn and that you aren’t happy where you are at, that means you will reach your goal. You will get into those 9/10 sooner or later. I am so proud of you. We all rely on the scale - I know I do and I am right now big time and it’s not moving. You will see the change especially b/c you are increasing your workouts now. Look what you’ve done at just doing 30 minutes and now your doing 1 hr - you will see the change I just know it. Congrats on doing so well. By the way you deserve 1 hr to yourself don’t let anyone tell you differently.
Ohh goodness girl I think no matter how much we tell ourselves the number on the scales doesnt matter we still put way to much focus on it. I am the same way. Your getting there I think by stepping up your workout you will see a loss. Your probably at just one of those dreaded plateus. But I have to say a size 14!!!! That is incredible.
And as for your dilema with your hubby. They are all the same. I think if you insert the word sex into your conversation he will hear you more lol… Try this. Honey, I sex, am going to sex workout for sex and hour sex. And see how that works for you LOL
I think scales lie sometimes really I do.. Muscle tone is oh so much more important than that number on the scale.. You know that Dawn.. Keep doing what you are doing and you are going to be a 9/10 before you know it!! And it is o.k. to be happy where you are right now too while you wait to get there!! Good job turning up the workout too! Awesome!
Everything is relative Dawn… I’ve seen on a few of our buddies weight tickers, my current weight as their first mini goal. I’ve seen people’s starting weight listed and it’s my goal weight.
Of course you want more, so do I. It’s funny before Thanksgiving when I first hit 31lbs lost, I felt great and thinner. Now still at the same amount lost, I feel like I did before I lost it. My body has adjusted to the loss and is telling me to get moving and drop another 30.
Don’t make yourself crazy….well even more crazy, over the scale. You’re doubling your exercise, surely that will produce another big loss.
By the way…it’s a man thing. I swear I have to put the freaking Post-It on Ethan’s forehead to get his attention sometimes. You know the magnetic Honey-Do lists you can hang on the fridge? I got one that reads…’ You Had Better F**king Get On This Honey ‘
I’m currently reading a book called “Scale Down” by Danna Demetre- she threw out her scale years ago but is in a smaller size now than she was then… maybe you should give it a whirl- ebay has the book at a good price
You go girl! Take that hour for yourself, no matter what! You will get where you want to be before you know it!
Have a great day!
keep your scale in the trunk of the car, that way if you usually weigh in the morning especially in the winter who is going to want to go to there car to get a scale??
Changing your workouts around & increasing their length is exactly the right thing to do to get to your goal! And an hour of workout is certainly NOT too much time for yourself….I’d call it the bare minimum of time to yourself, even. Don’t feel badly about taking time to do the things to keep yourself healthy & happy. Your family will thank you when they have a balanced Dawn around to keep them company!
It is so frustrating when you don’t see the progress you want…I too sort of ‘plateaued’ over the holidays….but your body needs time to adjust and get used to its new skinnier self! I know it’s not super-motivating during the times that the scale gets itself “stuck” on a number. I’m really glad that you can look in the mirror and SEE the changes though - that’s great!!
changin it up is really a good plan!
also.. trust me at least the scale is not moving up.. thats when i really cry.. but you look AMAZING!!!!
Why do you rely so much on the scale? Like Linda says, because it is validation. It is irrefutable, it’s a hard fact, a number. And all other benefits (and there are so so many) are up to our own judegements. You say how you are sure that your body is changing for the better, but it is hard to measure that certainty, and facts is what most people rely on. Dawn, you will lose weight, especially now with the added exercise. It will happen, so hang in there!
I dont really rely on the scale, because it really effects my mood and I can’t handle that. You are changing, and going down sizes, so celebrate that, not the number on the scale. I am so much like you! I used to be a 26, and thought anyone a size 14 was skinny, and now I am in the same boat,I want more too! We will get it too!
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Hi Dawn:
When I look at your ticker I see “58 POUNDS LOST“! What a great achievement. All during this time, up until this point, you’ve weighed yourself and it was pleasing in your sight. Now that the digits on the scale is not moving you’re disappointed and frustrated. Remember where you have been and all the struggles it took for you to get to this point, remember the committment and dedication you’ve put into this journey and to this day it still is a journey. You will surpass this point in your journey and with the changes you’ve implemented will only give you the results you’re looking for.
It took your frustrations for me to recognize my own. I feel the same way you do. I commend you for the courage to say it and move on from it. Take it easy on your hubby, he means well. Anyway men and women are not cut from the same cloth, that’s if you know what I mean…… SMILE
Your Buddy, Karen
Vent anytime any place! We all need to do it! Keep up the 1 hour workouts they will help shift them scales down! Keep smiling darling x
I just wanted to say im not very good with saying things or telling people things~ But dawn you are doing really great~ I know how you feel about wanting more~ I feel that way all the time~ I seriously wish I could blink and be back where i was with my weight~ Keep up the great job that you are doing and before long you will be in smaller size jeans ~
Holy Moly Girl!!! I think it has been one of those days. And maybe you should have said something to DH. Explain if he likes the changes he better give you time to work on it!!
How about taking that scale and locking it away for a month or so? Rely on the fit of your clothes and a measuring tape. I’ll bet you’ll feel a lot better about yourself.
Vent away honey! WE all have to do it. But I think that now that you have increased your exercise time from 30 minutes to an hour, you will see a significant weight-loss…you know, the kind you haven’t seen since November? Give it a week or two, I just KNOW you will see a nice loss!
You are doing great! Enjoy the journey, because there will be little ups and downs. There are many factors involved with what changes we are going through on our way to a lower weight. Water, muscle replacing fat, etc. Keep up the good work! Take care.