Of Life, not Weight…
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Ahhh. So I had yet another epiphany today?Yesterday, actually, but whose counting???
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Now, my husband will tell you that I use this word rather loosely?Maybe he is right, but here is what the meaning of the word is?
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e?piph?a?ny
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A sudden, intuitive perception of or insight into the reality or essential meaning of something, usually initiated by some simple, homely or commonplace occurance or experience.
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Ms. Jo said something very similar last week…
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Now. With that said, I do believe I have had another epiphany. I have them frequently these days as I travel the road that is my life journey?
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To not have them, means I am not learning or experiencing, and well, that?s just not the life for me friends?I like to keep moving forward?Sometimes I do veer sideways, but I normally find my way back to the trail eventually!
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So what was her epiphany??? Relationships?
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Relationships in ALL forms?Whether it be a spouse, a friendship, or a family member?
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It occurred to me, as I was recently trying to explain the importance of one of my relationships to someone who did not quite understand, that no matter how hard I try, I will never ever be able to convey that importance to them?Because it does not directly involve them?
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Because whether it be a spouse, a lover, a best friend or a family member, NO one besides the two very people involved understand the full depth of the relationship?Or all that has gone into it or will go into it.
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And with that realization came some growth and in a small sense, peace?
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I can remember early in my marriage, venting to my older sister about something my spouse did?Her immediate reaction was ?Well, he is an ass and I would NEVER allow that to happen in my home, and blah blah blah?? I was absolutely shocked! My sister LOVED my husband?To hear her turn on him in a heartbeat was unconceivable to me?I didn?t want that. I wanted a safe haven to vent, and then go back and work on things with my spouse?
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I learned a hard lesson that day?One I have tried very hard to hold to for my entire life?Watch what you say and to whom because people form immediate judgments about the situation that they really know little about?And even well meaning-ly, they butt in where they really don?t belong?
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So with that, today, as I reflect about a few very important people in my life currently?My spouse, my youngest sister, my best friend (And yes, that is just a sampling of the important folks in my life, there are certainly many many others!)
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These people who mean so much to me individually! I often want to cross match them and share them with each other, because they all share in a part of me?And they all bring me such joy, individually, that I sometimes struggle with how to juggle them all together?
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But I have realized that its really not possible to juggle them around?To a degree, maybe?But they will never be able to share in what I have with the individual?My sister will never be able to see my husband as I do?My husband will never be able to see my best friend the way I do, heck, even my two sisters may not be able to see each other as I see them, and so on and so on?
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Knowing this finally made a light bulb go off in my head, because for months I have been trying to care for, analyze, and defend each one of these relationships to the other?And in some cases, the outside world?And I simply cant?I was trying to do the impossible?
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So I have decided to just sit back for once and enjoy my journey with each of these people. No matter where that journey takes me or how long it lasts. I will love each of these people individually and completely?I will enjoy the gifts that they bring to my life, and be grateful that I am surrounded by such wonderful wonderful people who not only love me, but seem to like me as well?
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In turn, I will be happier, more well rounded, and more easy to deal with, to which ALL of the loved ones in my life will then reap the benefits of?
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Thanks for stopping by and may your day, your week, your life be filled with many many epiphanies!!! 
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~Dawn~
Dawn,
I have often thought the same thing about my diff relationships but you put it into words so beautifully and in a way that I never could….Isn’t it wonderful now that you can enjoy each and everyone of these people in a better way now.
xoxoxo
Becky
I agree with you about all of what you said and you are so right!
I must say I do love stopping by. Yours are some of the most positive and enjoyable blogs to read. Keep on sharing those epiphanies with us!!
Guess you drove that nail home, yet again!! As I was reading your blog, I was seeing my relationship between me and Micheal as well as with each of my three sisters, my kids, my dad and my online friends and my real life friends. My three sisters and myself are so different from each other, it’s hard to see the familial relationship. And nobody, except Micheal, understands my online friendships. My family just doesn’t understand how someone you’ve never met face-to-face can be considered your friend, much less a best friend! If only they knew!
Thank you for yet another insightful epiphany!!
Great words. So true.
Thanks for sharing.
Best,
Julia
And what an epiphany indeed!! I LOVE them and I don’t get them often enough! Like you said, when you do have them, it not only shows that you are learning, it also shows that you are truly LIVING and are not simply going through the motions.
I hope this new insight, brings joy to all your relationships, especially your marriage. I have all the faith and hope in the world, that your life be a happy and prosperous one…because even though I may not be blessed enough to share with you physically on a day to day basis…you’ve won a place in my heart.
May God bless you Dawnie!
It’s always amazed me how the different people in our lives draw out very different sides of ourselves. I have my silly friends, with whom I laugh and poke fun with. My intellectual friends, with whom I debate politics and the meaning of life. My old friends, with whom we relive our past good and bad. Then there is the few designated basket cases, with whom I get to be an authority on children, life, and laundry stains.
I love the way that we can learn about ourselves by looking at the people in our life. Very insightful Dawn, as usual.
Definitely interesting how people meet you and only get a certain part of your life… Interesting thoughts Dawn.. I’m glad I have my part of your life.. Glad we can be buddies!!!
I just want to know how you stay so positive? Can I have some of that?